“to run away secretly with the intention of getting married usually without parental consent”Merriam-Webster Dictionary
… or at least that’s how the Merriam-Webster’s dictionary has previously defined elopement. But what if I told you that the 2020 version of an elopement doesn’t have to be a secret, shameful or rebellious act?
As a bride myself (married June 2018 🥂) and a wedding professional, I have seen first hand that an elopement is so much more than what the dictionary says. Merriam-Webster just hasn’t caught up with the times yet. An elopement in 2020 has a wide variety of definitions, but is regularly defined by two things.
First, it’s just you, your man, + maybe a super small group of your close people (plus a photog and officiant but we can chat about that later 😉). One of the really special things about an elopement is the intimacy that is created when you two go before God with only those people closest to you (or alone) and commit your lives to each other. There is no distraction, no need to perform or impress. If you’ve got 10 (or less) people and that day is centered around celebrating you – I think we can consider it an elopement.
Second, it’s usually a way to create an epic experience out of the day. An adventure that you two get to create together that reflects exactly who you are and where you are in that season. Whether that adventure looks like summiting a bucket list mountain top or simply exploring the beaches of your dreams. Your elopement is really an experiential expression of your love.
There is no right or wrong way to plan it. Though you may need to walk your family + friends through why it’s the right choice for you, it’s well worth chewing on as an option (especially for you rona brides!)
If you need some help navigating the sticky conversations that elopements bring about, check out this blog here.
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